Raising self esteem

Anti-Bullying Week in the UK this year runs from Monday 16th to Friday 20th November. Under the umbrella of the Anti-Bullying Alliance it aims to “stop bullying and create safer environments in which children and young people can live, grow, play and learn.”

Of course bullying doesn’t just happen amongst children: it’s found in the workplace, in politics, in society in general — and people can feel bullied by circumstances as much as by other people — but this week is of necessity directed primarily at youngsters.

Psychologist Emily Lovegrove (Reader, I married her — and vice versa of course), also known as The Bullying Doctor (yes, I’ve heard the jokes), has authored two self-help books for youngsters on coping with bullying.

Emily signing books at Crickhowell bookshop Book-ish in May 2020

Her previous publication, Help! I’m Being Bullied (Accent Press, 2006), has long been out of print but the latest, Autism, Bullying and Me (Jessica Kingsley Publishers), was published earlier this year and has been receiving five-star reviews for its impact not just for those with autism but also their parents, and indeed adults in general.

Emily both lectures and leads many workshops on anti-bullying strategies. She runs her own private practice as The Bullying Doctor, working mainly with autistic children and young adults, and her work has featured in The Guardian, Mail on Sunday, Sunday Times, Times Education Supplement and on mainstream media such as BBC News, Sky News, Inside Out, Five Live and GMTV. Her website, The Bullying Doctor, is dedicated to “defusing bullying and raising self-esteem.”

I couldn’t pass on this opportunity to again promote Emily’s book: not only am I inordinately proud of what she has achieved but her work and the way she has presented it is, I believe, of huge importance in helping all who’ve felt bullied — whether on the spectrum or not, whether young or old, whether because of particular circumstances or by life in general — by saying how and why it happens and how one can cope with it.

STOP PRESS Autism, Bullying and Me: The Really Useful Stuff You Need to Know About Coping Brilliantly with Bullying is now available in an Audible version, read by the author, via this link.

15 thoughts on “Raising self esteem

    1. Thank you for your concern, Paula — the current thinking is that she may be suffering from reactive arthritis, perhaps related to long Covid, and not as first thought a simple case of sciatica; investigations are ongoing so this is only a guess and we have to wait and see, in the meantime taking one day at a time.

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  1. As a teacher I am always looking to widen my awareness of bullying and ways of combatting it. To that end I am delighted to have these books “promoted” and have just bought both of them. All good wishes to you and to the good doctor!

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    1. Well, Simon, that is above and beyond the call of duty, and we’re both very, very grateful. I do hope you’ll find the two texts of interest and helpful and, even, funny!


    1. Oh, that’s so lovely of you to say so! Hope you find it of interest as well as of help. I think it’s especially important to manage bullying when a certain minister being an outright bully is currently in the news and when the prime minister has accepted her inadequate apology and declared that the matter is now closed. I somehow don’t think it is.

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      1. I read about that. Having been bullied in school and at work I was upset and quite angry to see the PM’s totally inadequate response to this. Looking at the government these days makes me want to set up some kind of Ofsted for MPs. Let them have some no notice inspections and publicise the results. It shocks me how many govenment contracts go to friends and family of MPs and government ministers. I just feel so angry about it. Sometimes I think we have a democracy on the surface of things but are still quite feudal if you scratch the surface.

        Apologies for going on – this is a bit of a sore spot for me.

        Anyway, Emily’s book came today. I can’t wait to read it. Although I’m considerably older than her target audience I think it will be really helpful to me as an autistic adult.

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        1. No apologies necessary, Jo, I think all right-thinking people are of the same mind about this shambling excuse for a leader, and ditto for the farcical shenanigans going on the other side of the pond. How has it come to this, that nearly half the electorate bothering to vote in major democracies go for lying, sociopathic and corrupt leaders who anyone with half a brain cell can see absolutely despise their constituents and will inevitably impoverish them?

          On to more positive matters — you won’t believe how many adults have said Emily’s books have, as much as to kids, spoken to them as well. And while it has been marketed by the publishers as for those on the spectrum it really suits anybody who has ever felt bullied, intentionally or not.

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          1. I’ve finished the book now. It was really good! I kind of expected it to be a quick but useful read but there was actually so much “food for thought” that I had to take time out to think things through then let them settle. Please thank Emily for me – it was really useful – I got a lot out of it. I really enjoy many books of all kinds but only a few make me think deeply enough to get me writing things up in my learning journal – this was one of those!

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